It's cancer. My family loved one has cancer.
Wow. My blood turned to ice. My mind went both blank and in a thousand directions at once.
There are two schools of thought about how to cope with huge issues like illnesses, deaths, divorces and other major life events.
One idea is to carry on with as little change as possible. For some people that helps maintain a sense of control and balance.
The other is to 'lean in' to the issues and not attempt to continue life as usual, but to change the way you might ordinarily deal with schedules and daily life.
Either way, it's important to decide which works better for you, and to let people know what to expect from you, especially those that rely on you.
I chose to 'lean in'. Here's what that meant for me.
I alerted people that, out of respect for their time, if they needed a 100% commitment for appointments, I'd have to decline. But if they could accept the small possibility that I would have to cancel the day before, I would make the appointment. Some chose to decline (dentist and doctor) some said "No problem." (long-time clients)
We've heard it before and don't ignore this: Have 6 months of financial reserve in place, either in savings or guaranteed loan availability. Ironically, you cannot get credit when you need it, only when you don't need it. Talk to your financial folks for ideas.
You're the only one that can take care of your own health. So take care of your health. Without it, everything you want or need to do is limited.
Just like being aware of your health, you're the only one who knows when you're spiritually depleted. Do what it takes to refill yourself.
Be generous to yourself and others by offering the gift of accepting their help in whatever form it's offered, within the boundaries you've set. People want to assist you; it helps them feel connected.
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Be balanced and organized by alternating your view of things from the details to the long-range view and back again.
Otherwise it's like driving your car while looking only at either the gauges or the horizon.
All in all? Everything here applies to everyone, every day, crisis or stasis. And remember, whatever it is, this too shall pass.